Judging is one of the most overused words nowadays and while some judge directly or indirectly, some spew horrible words. As usual, women are the main target. The world would probably be a little different if we could reduce it on the individual level!
Recently, I came across an advertisement that caught my attention. It was all about not judging a woman. It was an advertisement with a different mindset and which really appealed to me a lot. It was indeed inspiring and empowering lines for every woman, one of which says, “Meri salwar-kameez mujhko behenjee nahein bulatee (My Salwar-kameez doesn’t call me an aunty)” and the salwar-kameez clad girl immediately sits and rides away on her bullet with pride in front of all the so called “modern” people.
“The ambition of the greatest man of our generation has been to wipe every tear from every eye..as long as there are tears and suffering our work will not be over.” To say we are in entirety perfect is far from true, but we have that priceless gift bestowed upon us in exchange for sacrifices our leaders and fighters made, we have freedom, the freedom to speech, to protest, to opportunity, the freedom to change. All we need to do is stand up, and fight. Kyunki “Hindustan ab gulam nahi reh sakta.” Goosebumps, yes, maybe tears too, but if this brings in the resolve to stand up, our fathers have succeeded yet again. Watch on!
There will always be a bunch advising you to resort to ‘lightening-creams’ if you are ‘dark’. Sadly enough, I had one of these at my disposal too. But luckily, they were mostly people whom I could conveniently avoid – distant ‘concerned’ relatives, college acquaintances and so on. Plus, Ma had me prepped for those inescapable events and I was all set to bash people with my well-rehearsed “But, I won’t have it any other way” smirk.
Growing up in an Indian family when you belong to this generation, is a struggle. Your beliefs, your manner, your culture, everything originates from your family. They want to be the start and end of everything and they’re as inquisitive as it gets. But what about all the other things that influence your life, that makes you want to be more free, more aloof, more independent?
Well we hide those away in crevices, hoping they won’t find them. And what really happens is that they ignore them, even your family refuses to acknowledge your unique personality. The personality you bring out in full form only infront of your friends. Instead they turn a blind eye and pretend you are still that 13 year old who believes in all the same things, still likes eating curd-rice and who watches Pokemon everyday.
Maybe as parents we’d change a few things around to let our kids be their real self, kick back their heels and let them freak out in life. Here is to my future kids,
1. Go to the mandir every year on your birthday
No, don’t go to the mandir, instead, go to a church, a mosque, practise Buddhism or simply sit at home and believe in karma. Don’t believe in religion if you don’t want to. All I really would ask of you is to believe in something bigger than yourself.
After all, you don’t get stamped with the religion you belong to at birth.
2. Celebrate Diwali/Holi/ Navratri
I don’t want you to celebrate festivals only celebrated by a particular religion. I want you to eat biryani on Eid, to play with colours on Holi, to eat sweets on Diwali, to dance to Dhol on Ganpati visarjan and keep out cookies and milk for Santa on Christmas. I want you to celebrate whatever you feel like celebrating, including the day India legalizes Gay Marriages.
पत्नी ने कहा - आज धोने के लिए ज्यादा कपड़े मत निकालना…
उसने कहा..- अपनी काम वाली बाई दो दिन नहीं आएगी…
पत्नी- गणपति के लिए अपने नाती से मिलने बेटी के यहाँ जा रही है, बोली थी…
पति- ठीक है, अधिक कपड़े नहीं निकालता…
पत्नी- और हाँ!!! गणपति के लिए पाँच सौ रूपए दे दूँ उसे? त्यौहार का बोनस..
पति- क्यों? अभी दिवाली आ ही रही है, तब दे देंगे…
पत्नी- अरे नहीं बाबा!! गरीब है बेचारी, बेटी-नाती के यहाँ जा रही है, तो
उसे भी अच्छा लगेगा… और इस महँगाई के दौर में उसकी पगार से त्यौहार कैसे
पति- तुम भी ना… जरूरत से ज्यादा ही भावुक हो जाती हो…
पत्नी- अरे नहीं… चिंता मत करो… मैं आज का पिज्जा खाने का कार्यक्रम रद्द
कर देती हूँ… खामख्वाहपाँच सौ रूपए उड़ जाएँगे, बासी पाव के उन आठ टुकड़ों के
पति- वा, वा… क्या कहने!! हमारे मुँह से पिज्जा छीनकर बाई की थाली में??
तीन दिन बाद… पोंछा लगाती हुई कामवाली बाई से पति ने पूछा...
The word religion is a very complex term. What does it mean to you? Something that decides the traditions you should follow? Something that decides your values?
There are many people who discriminate on the basis of religion; But if the very basis of religion is to unite people, then don’t you think that something is wrong with the way religion is perceived and effectuated in real life? That it is in fact dividing people and creating wars than actually bringing about peace and a sense of family?
This heart-touching video by BeingIndian shows some kids talking about what they think religion is, and what it means to them.
“Religion is not so special. Everybody is the same.”
Everyone watches pοrn, but the question is: should we?
Tel Aviv based Ran Gavrieli delivered this TEDx Talk where he explained why he stopped watching pοrn. Gavrieli studies gender and sex, and in this talk, he tries to provide a very insightful explanation as to how pοrn is not only bad for the people who watch it, but is also sometimes a matter of life and death for those women who try to take a shot at a career in the pοrn industry.